William M. Jump

Getting You Soul Right

What is most important in this life is your Spiritual evolution

S’s Dominant/Spiritual Guide

“You’re not going to be happy if you don’t have your Soul right. The soul can’t be right if blocked off traumas are allowed to surface and triggers are allowed to play a role in creating bad life choices.” The quote comes from a high level Spiritual Guide of a former client. While utilizing hypnosis in the healing of childhood wounds, a realm of non-physical helpers emerged to guide me in the healing process.  As a psychotherapist, I have remained grounded in Dissociation theory because it provides the best explanation of the manifestations of childhood trauma.  Direct communication with guides, helpers, protectors, and past life energies has also aligned me with a Spiritual Psychology, a perspective that combines psychological healing and spiritual growth.

I was given a gift early on in my work of this level Spiritual Guide which I will refer to as S’s Dominant (un-referenced bold faced quotes are from this source). The Dominant not only guided me as the external helper through a complicated case that included trauma from this life time, as well as past life energies, but would share with me important information regarding healing at the deeper soul level.  I had already had communication with guides and helpers in other clients and began to see a clear systematic process in the healing of childhood wounds. S’s Dominant would serve to validate what I was concluding about the dynamics of unresolved trauma from this life time as well as previous lives.  This Guide would further enlighten me with knowledge and wisdom important to the earth’s current transformation. I had always inherently known that you have to get to the underlying source of the symptom for psychological healing and spiritual growth to occur.  With much humility, I understand that this non-physical realm rises in a hierarchy way beyond that which we can comprehend.  They give us what we need.

“Simply discard the notion that you have a single personality.  Notice the variety that is you.  You will find a lot of experiential validation when you drop the outmoded theory of one person-one personality.”

David Reynolds (Playing ball on running water)

What I am about to discuss is not about multiple personality in the psychiatric sense but the multiplicity of our personality.  As Zukav writes in Seat of the Soul, “the soul creates a personality from those parts of itself that it wants to heal in the physical environment and from those parts of itself that it lends to the process of healing in that lifetime.” In this sense, we are all multiple parts- layers- personalities.

A Spiritual Guide and six child helpers enter the physical body upon our first breath.  They have been pre-assigned to us at the Soul level. (I knew you before you were born) There are also external helpers, protectors, and teachers that accompany us during our life’s journey. Departed relatives may show up from time to time to help out and watch over us. Often a carry-over energy, usually from the family line, is brought into the system for healing. “The universe brings back energies so the human race can evolve.  Genetic patterns are repeated.” An Oversoul oversees our system like a supervisor. On rare occasion have I directly communicated with the Oversoul.

It is our Spiritual Guide our essence that guides us through this incarnation.  It lives and sees through the sixth chakra, the third eye.  It knows our purpose and mission and serves to move us towards integration and wholeness. It speaks to us through our hunches and gut feelings. “I’m the in-between of the body and the universe.” The six helpers are paired up and pre-assigned to the emotional chakras, the second, third, and fourth.  As we progress through developmental stages, the helpers sequentially light up and give us traits, gifts and abilities. (see Carolyn Myss’ Anatomy of the Spirit for the most incredible explanation of the chakra systems) The child begins its journey back to original wholeness, certainly not without trials and tribulations, because we are here along with our helpers to learn lessons. The reality is that none of us get through childhood without some wounds and scars.  Unfortunately many children experience overwhelming stress and or traumas, albeit from emotional, physical and or sexual abuse.  Witnessing domestic violence and family disruption can also leave an indelible imprint on the psyche.  When a trauma occurs, alarms go off, survival mechanisms kick in, and dissociation and fragmentation ensues.  Often the Host, the conscious child, is placed in a theta trance, a suspended state of mind, unaware of what is going on. This accounts for the amnesia associated with childhood trauma. Many who experience early trauma have cognitive recollections of the events, but it is the blocked off feelings that cause the symptoms.  The overwhelming stressor or traumatic experience is then divided into thoughts, feelings, and perceptions.  The feelings are then subdivided into different frequencies.  For example, the middle helper assigned to the negative emotions in the fourth chakra, comes out of position to hold the hurt, blame, and shame feelings from the trauma.  Understand that the primary emotions triggered during a trauma in childhood are very powerful emotions. Anger is rage, fear is panic, and sadness is despair.

The following is an excerpt from a middle helper of an adolescent who experienced both sexual and physical abuse as a child.  The Host is always in a suspended theta trance when I am communicating with the non-physical helpers or the Dominant.  The helper is addressing the mother.

“Why didn’t she protect me?”

“She never gave me love.”

“I felt isolated.  I feel worthless.”

If not resolved, these feelings would have continued to manifest in symptoms and behavioral reenactments. Child helpers can not return to their positive productive position until these feelings are resolved.  The feelings remain in a time warp and when triggered, feel contemporary.  The reader needs to understand that when the helper is talking to me, the negative energy associated with the powerful feelings is being processed and released at a deeper level.  The power that the traumatic feelings had over you is diminished. Talking to child helpers is not necessary for healing to occur. Some helpers can’t or don’t want to come into physical reality.  However, I always direct communication to each particular helper that is being addressed during the hypnotic abreaction process.  I know which helper is being addressed through my knowledge of chakra patterns. The Spiritual Guides are not always able to communicate directly through the physical body so ideomotor signals are often used.  Remember, this inner world is an invisible intelligent life force. They have more important work to do than to talk to me.  Their guidance and input is always welcomed.

The anger from the same traumatic experience is blocked off in the third chakra and is held by a teenage helper who is called to duty before its time. I refer to it as the teenage helper because under normal circumstances, this helper would awaken in early adolescence. This frequency can range from frustration to rage.  The anger generated by a trauma at an early age, by the biological family and or trusted family member can be extremely powerful and difficult to control.  The system tries to contain this specific emotion until early adolescence.  The anger and rage associated with the rebellious teenager is the anger that is dissociated during the childhood trauma.  When this anger manifests, it is time to get your teenager the deeper help, not meds and talk therapy. This is the part of the self that can seek drugs and alcohol for relief.  The extreme rage is associated with a “murderous revenge fantasy” and is all too often acted out as in the Virginia Tech case.   This anger and rage can also be turned back on the Host through self-destructive and self-sabotaging behaviors.

The same trauma can require one of the second chakra helpers to hold either despair and or panic.  Because the narrative is dissociated from feelings, the adult who has a panic attack does not know why they are feeling that way.  Again, it feels contemporary and is confusing for the Host.  Remember, the blocked off powerful emotions remain in their primary form until they are accepted and expressed into consciousness.  These emotions can remain internalized and manifest in depression and physical problems.

These parts of the self make decisions for you, usually not good ones, because they draw you to experiences that replay but never resolve the original stressor and or trauma. You keep living in the past.  As long as you remain fragmented-different parts of the self holding an array of powerful emotions- you will never feel content.  The female survivor goes from feeling like the self-blaming hurt little child to feeling like a rage filled teenager.  When blocked off feelings are triggered or activated, they color your reactions and perspectives with the emotions of that specific helper.  You can be partially or completely amnestic for these depersonalized episodes.

It is the middle helper in the juvenile sex offender who propels the Host to act out with his five-year old step sister.  The offender more often than not does not remember his or her own trauma at age five.  With domestic violence, both partners are reenacting their childhood trauma –same struggles, different roles. (see my blog on domestic violence) It is the middle helper who eats to feel good, causing the Host to have a weight problem.  It is the part of the self that holds the powerlessness from the abusive dad, who causes the Host to be the bully at the schoolyard in a futile effort to triumph over that powerlessness.  It is the past life story that awakens and causes the teenager to revisit a torture from the 1700’s through self-mutilation.

Our symptoms are telling us that there are parts of our Soul that need to be healed.  The child helpers need to release their darkness before they can return their positive position in the system. This is the Shaman concept of Soul retrieval. Blocked off feelings have to be accepted into consciousness.  Only then can we experience true healing.

My clients who have suffered childhood trauma understand this inner world. They know the parts of their selves through their feelings and reactions.  For those five sense thinkers who reject an inner life, I won’t try to convince you. Be grateful that you feel that sense of wholeness that my clients seek. Or perhaps you are just unconscious.  We have become a psyche-phobic society included the psychology world. (see my blog-psyche-phobic pysch world) As Woolger writes in Other Lives, Other Selves, “the fact that many people find the very idea of an inner world and other selves both disturbing and distasteful, is alas, a sad commentary on how very unpsychological and antipathetic to the psyche-and by extension, the spirit-our society has become.”

The essence of this article is expressed in the following quote from S’s Dominant/Spiritual Guide:  human beings have so much pain that they are carrying around with them when they were a child and they are not letting go of it and not realizing their full potential.  That’s what hypnosis is- that is what the trance work does; it releases that… To get a grip on your feelings you need to “disconnect” the conscious mind in order to get to the root of the problem in the sub-conscious mind.

The Shamans have long understood the use of altered states of consciousness for healing.  African tribes utilize a “radical ritual” (hypnotic-abreactions) to release the negative energetic debris. Scientists currently understand the importance of the trance state in order to clear up the emotions trapped in our chakra system for mind, body and spiritual healing.  At the turn of the century Pierre Janet coined the term “dissociation”.  He understood that trauma was blocked off in altered states of consciousness and would manifest in horrific symptoms if not integrated through hypnosis. Clinical psychology has lost its way.  How about this acronymic technique-DSH, deep soul healing!

The trance/hypnotic state simply connects us to the power and resources we have to heal.    The trance state aligns us with the forces that bring things to us. For healing, it is the state of mind that allows the abreactions to occur.  The abreaction, not induced by the therapist but by the guiding forces within us, is a controlled and systematic release of blocked off aspects of the trauma. Vivid dreams are often abreactions.  Child helpers are systematically brought forth for healing and returned to their positive function in the system. The traumatic experience is integrated and placed in the mind as a narrative of something that occurred in the past. Upper chakras are cleared of old images and thought patterns so that these energy systems can function properly in bringing the Host personal power, a voice, and insights. Cognitive restructuring techniques are more productive during this phase of the healing process. The journey towards authentic power and wholeness can proceed. Psychological and spiritual balance is achievable.

We are in the flux of a paradigm shift towards a new dimension of consciousness, a higher awareness and understanding. Mother Nature is not allowing any more denials. Blocked off feelings are emerging in horrific behaviors. Human beings are going bonkers.  Tap into your power and rid yourself of the negativity. Don’t let fear rule your life.  Take responsibility for all the parts of yourself.  Commit to a healing process that puts you on that path.

“There is a Wellspring of Knowledge, the essence from which everything flows. If you don’t let yourself move away from consciousness, you will be stuck with negative emotions, fear, guilt, and shame.  We need to stop punishing ourselves.  The unconscious internet will change consciousness. There will be a flood of new information associated with the current paradigm shift.  Society has been asleep for 2000 years. Humans need to meditate and rediscover hypnosis in order to expand the knowledge of the mind and to have a light heart (pure in heart ) which will make dying and going to the next level easier.” S’s Dominant/Spiritual Guide.

The Psyche-Phobic Psych World
(Fear of the abreaction)
Only seeking healing in the consciousness
Will produce true healing
DeRohan

Wake up Psychology world! We are in the midst of a paradigm shift, a shift to a higher level of consciousness-a new dimension. You are psyche-phobic with regard to the treatment of trauma. If you haven’t noticed, the Universe is not allowing humans to deny anymore. Blocked off trauma is manifesting in horrendous behavior reenactments. Just watch the daily news. The release of negative energy in individuals, groups, and cultures is a manifestation of this paradigm shift. Just as an individual must release negative energy before moving on, so goes the planet. However, we need to have therapeutic settings that allow the safe and tolerable release of unresolved trauma and stress so that inner harmony can be achieved. Otherwise the dissociated trauma will continue to manifest in self destructive and aggressive behaviors. It has been estimated that 70% of those who seek mental health treatment have unresolved childhood problems.

You have allowed one study on conscious memory –which has been rebuked-to stifle the use of HYPNOTIC/ABREACTIONS in the healing of dissociated trauma. Do you realize that conscious memory is different than traumatic and emotional memory? You have allowed political correctness and the insurance companies to dictate your treatment processes. Trauma victims are seeking help through acupuncture, psychics, massage and reiki modalities. Individuals are listening to that inner voice that is crying out for a deeper healing process. I have had teenagers that tell their parents that they believe that they need hypnosis. Talk therapy and medication have not and will not be the answer for resolving trauma and restoring psychological and spiritual balance. Can you believe there is talk of developing a pill to cure PTSD? What will that do for the negative energy in the chakra system? I currently have clients who need an in-house treatment setting that doesn’t exit. That setting would invite hypnotic/abreactions within a safe, monitored and controlled environment, always being careful about retraumatization. The goal of integration would come from the balance of uncovering traumatic experiences and ego strengthening. Even the psychiatric hospitals that profess to PTSD specialties don’t appear to be doing the abreactive work. Juvenile residential treatment centers should be prime settings for the deeper work because adolescence is the developmental stage at which time the unconscious mind begins to release the earlier blocked off material. This is why teens are so symptomatic. Again, the “fear of the abreaction” probably prevents this from happening. Instead, you label them bi-polar and pump them up with medication. It’s time to move beyond treating the symptom to addressing and resolving the underlying source of the symptom. Symptoms are telling us that there is something deeper that needs to be healed.

I believe that many therapists suffer from the “fear of the encounter” syndrome with their clients. The old school objective approach is not efficient in working with trauma. Watkins (Hypnotic abreactions in the Recovery of Traumatic Memories-1995) describes the need for a “highly intense relationship in which the therapist is willing to co-experience the pain and horrors with the patient.” The hypnotic/abreaction is not a technique, not something you are inducing in the client. The hypnotic state plugs the client into their power and resources. The Mind then can prepare and set forth the abreaction. The therapist becomes the external helper for the client. Be ever so humble. Also, if you can’t handle the abreactions, then get out of the kitchen!

Breton and Largent write in the Paradigm Conspiracy-1996; “we can’t wait for science whose premise is to discount the invisible unmeasured to support and validate a spiritual psychology.” The psych-world is struggling against the paradigm shift in its effort to remain secular and scientific with its “evidence based” acronymic techniques. Any technique that neutralizes, suppresses or tries to banish blocked off trauma is still denial. As Jesus told Mack in The Shack, “Some folks try with all kinds of coping mechanisms and mental games. But the monsters are still there, just waiting for the chance to come out.” How about some D-S-H-deep soul healing! Certainly, NLP techniques can assist with cognitive restructuring only after the primary emotions of the trauma have been diminished. Have you forgotten that psychology was grounded in the belief that symptoms and manifestations were related to repressed or blocked off traumatic experiences and that through the hypnagogic state, the trauma could be accessed and healed? Come on, Pierre Janet understood at the turn of the century that if the dissociated material was not integrated, it would continue to be repeated as a contemporary event. Without a doubt, the Dissociation research out of Harvard is unparalleled in understanding trauma on behavioral, emotional, and neuro-biological levels. For over two decades, I have been concerned that this incredible research has not trickled down to the therapeutic community. Hopefully it is starting to at some level. My only criticism of this research is that it seems a little wishy-washy with treatment modalities, although they do report that hypnosis has been effective in treating trauma.

For thousands of years, the Shaman healers have used altered states of consciousness for restoring balance. They prefer a model of health versus a model of disease. In Africa, they understand that healing the pain of abuse and loss requires a “radical ritual” to release the negative energetic debris. Scientists are recognizing the importance of the trance state. Bruce Lipton (The Biology of Belief-2005) promotes clinical hypnotherapy as a tool that can “dig to the roots of our fears and uproot them quickly.” John Jay Harper (Tranceformers-2006) speaks of utilizing trance to clear the emotions trapped in our chakra system.

As I discuss in my book, Beyond the Violation of the Self, my use of hypnosis connected me to an inner realm of guides helpers, protectors and carry over energies. I have aligned with a Transpersonal/Spiritual Psychology which combines psychological healing and spiritual growth, a perspective that will certainly have to take the fore- front during this shift in consciousness. Any model of healing will have to be about restoring balance to the mind, body, and spirit. The therapist will encourage the client to take responsibility for all of themselves. The goal is oneness, completeness, and balance.
The intellect does indeed do harm to the soul
when it dares to possess itself of the heritage of the spirit Jung

“Reenactment of one’s own victimization is a major cause of the cycle of violence”
Van der Kolk

An adolescent was referred to me following an investigation of child sexual abuse. This teen, who had come to live with a great aunt and her son and family, acted out sexually with a younger cousin. This adolescent is female. Through the hypnotic/abreactive process, it was discovered that she suffered terrible sexual abuse in her home country.

Two decades ago I began utilizing the hypnotic/abreactive techniques for the juvenile offenders with the premise that there was an underlying source of their acting out behavior. My first juvenile offender with this technique was abused at age five by the baby sitter’s twelve year old daughter. What I have discovered is all of the offenders were abused as children and that ninety percent were amnestic for their original trauma that usually occurred under the age of seven or eight. It is difficult for “humans” to comprehend that we can act out the very abuse that occurred to us, even though we have no recollection of that original trauma. In my practice, there has been a steady increase in treating female juvenile offenders over the last decade.

As I have discussed before, the major manifestations of childhood abuse are feeling powerlessness, helplessness, and loss of control. Our major defense against this powerlessness is “identification with the aggressor” which permits these feelings of powerlessness and helplessness to be replaced with feelings of power and omnipotence. Let me be clear, not all victims of child sexual abuse become victimizers. Many remain in victim roles. However, I have seen some victims play both roles. The female survivor, who repeats her victimization in risk taking sexual behaviors during early adolescence, will disclose to me that she had acted inappropriately with a younger sibling or cousin. Tolle writes in A New Earth, “pain-bodies want to both inflict and suffer pain, but some are predominately either perpetrators or victims.”

Although there appears to be an increase in female victimizers, this phenomenon has been quite prevalent in my work. Over fifty percent of my male victims of sexual abuse were abused by females; baby sitters, older siblings and cousins. All of my male clients who were being treated for indecent exposure, were abused by females. Interestingly, they acted out with teenage girls who were the same age as their female perpetrator. Many of my clients, both male and female, were sexually abused by their mothers.

The increase in female victimizers is certainly reflected in the news over the last few years. Female school teachers are having sex with minor adolescent male students who are the age of their perpetrator. A young adult female molests and murders a young child whom she knew and had babysat. Locally an adult female is currently under investigation for molesting young girls.

I attribute the increase in female offenders to the following: the unintended consequence with regard to the outward expression of feelings increases the possibility that female survivors will engage in more acting out behavior; and the current influence of the paradigm shift that is not allowing any human to deny their blocked off trauma. The bottom line is that blocked off primary emotions will continue to manifest in the victim remaining in a victim role and or becoming the victimizer, the later being a futile unconscious and involuntary attempt to “triumph” over the original trauma until it is uncovered and resolved. I heard a local Social Worker proclaim that it involves a different dynamic when females act out which for me plays into the double standard that I have seen with certain systems being more empathetic to the female offender’s own childhood abuse.

The psychology world needs to rise above treating symptoms and over diagnosing kids as ADHD, and teens and adults as bi-polar, and start assessing for early trauma. For those individuals who know that you experienced early trauma, courageously seek a therapeutic process that produces true healing.
Tolle, E. (2005). A new earth. New York: Penguin Group.
Van der Kolk, B. A. The compulsion to repeat the trauma. Psychiatric Clinics of North America. 12 (2), 389-411.

“Anger directed against the self or others is always a central problem in the lives of people who have been violated and this is itself a repetitive re-enactment of real events from the past.”
Bessel A. van der Kolk

An adolescent is on trial for killing his mother with a baseball bat; another adolescent has going before a judge for killing his parents and siblings. As I was preparing this blog, another teenager has reportedly killed his mother in my local area. The “rage at mom syndrome” is rage directed toward the mother for not protecting the child from abuse, even if that mother didn’t know the abuse was occurring. These events have occurred within a fifteen mile radius of my house. How about the footage of male and female adolescents beating on the bus drivers as well as you-tube film of teenage girls beating on each other? Let’s not forget the school shootings over the last decade. The increase in these behaviors is related to the Universe not allowing denials to continue. (A future blog will address this concept).
The intense anger and rage that manifests in early adolescence is one of the primary emotions that was dissociated during an earlier intense stressor or trauma –physical, sexual, emotional abuse; from witnessing domestic violence, as well as from issues of abandonment and rejection. I have observed that early sustained trauma by the hands of a biological parent or trusted caregiver often correlated to more intense symptoms and more dramatic behavioral re-enactments. Many children experience trauma and severe stress from experiences outside of the household which can include bullying and sexual assaults, which if goes unchecked over time, can manifest in deep rage. The unconscious mind tries to contain this powerful anger during the latency stages, five to twelve. There is a different level of anger that emerges from the fourth chakra during the latency stage in the form of jealousy, frustration, and avenging behaviors (aggression with siblings). The anger that emerges from the third chakra during the early teen years can range from intense anger to rage. It can manifest in extreme aggression to violence and can often carry a “murder fantasy revenge” component that is being acted out all too often. Not everyone who holds blocked off anger expresses it overtly. Anger can be internalized and manifest in isolation, depression, suicidal ideation, and self-harm. However, anger/rage is the one emotion that typically seeks an external target. If not triggered by an outside event or another person, the ‘angry part’ will provoke or “pick a fight” in order to illicit the anger that it needs to feed upon.
A Dissociative/neurobiological perspective tells us that the powerful traumatic material is blocked off in fragments and processed in a more primitive part of the brain. Consequently, when dissociated anger is triggered, there is no stop and think mechanism; just a fight or flight reaction. This explains the overreactions and intimidating behaviors of those who carry blocked off anger and rage. It is as though the anger has a life of its own; as Tolle describes, a “primitive intelligence” directed primarily at survival.
From a dialogue with a high level Spiritual Guide (see Part IV in Beyond the Violation of the Self),“Anger is motivated by fear, the strongest force ever generated. Anger is a cry for help at the soul level. Please get me help!” Withdrawal, silences, self harm, and outward expressions of anger and aggression such as, “I hate you; nobody tells me what to do”, are signs that the unconscious mind can not control or is choosing to open the blocked off anger for healing. Cultures have “radical rituals” to resolve childhood trauma as it emerges. We pump our kids up with medication (not usually effective for trauma) and label them ADHD or Bi-polar and attempt to use behavioral modification techniques to control powerful primary emotions. If unhealed during adolescence, the anger and rage will continue in adulthood to manifest inwardly as depression and stomach problems, and outwardly in domestic violence and acts of rage.
Western culture needs to awaken to the deeper healing processes that are required for healing dissociated trauma. Two decades of utilizing hypnotic/abreactive techniques has been very effective in helping adolescents resolve blocked off trauma. (See hypnotic/abreactions in my website)

“A thwarted life purpose surges up during adolescence in the form of impetuousness and insubordination.” Malidoma Some
Some, M. P. (1998). The healing wisdom of Africa. New York: Penguin Putnam Inc.
Van der Kolk, B. A. (1989). The compulsion to repeat the trauma. Psychiatric Clinics of North America. 12 (2), 389-411.

Sea-Change

“We routinely disqualify testimony that would plead for extenuation”
Marilynne Robinson, The Death of Adam
I never intended to be an Outrider. I just wanted to do my marital and family therapy for which I was trained. However, with every door of opportunity that opened, I was pushed into the world of psychological trauma, which led to hypnotic/abreactive training, which through the utilization of trance, would connect me to a realm of non-physical helpers and protectors. This led me to align myself with a Transpersonal/ Spiritual Psychology perspective which combines psychological healing with spiritual growth.(see website on Transpersonal) I have spent two decades utilizing hypnotic/abreactive techniques in the healing of early childhood traumas, albeit physical, sexual, and emotion abuse. Understand, psychology was grounded in the belief that symptoms and manifestations are related to dissociated or blocked off traumatic experiences and that through hypnosis, the trauma could be accessed and healed. If unhealed, individuals were doomed to repeat the trauma in contemporary experiences. Hopefully the invaluable trauma research from Harvard is finally making its way to our collective consciousness because it provides us with an incredible understanding of the long term manifestations of early psychological trauma. (see website on Dissociation)
The world of Spiritual Guides, helpers and teachers that opened up to me over two decades ago has reinforced the belief that healing is ultimately at the Soul level. The Shamans and the healing tribes of Africa have long understood that altered states of consciousness are required to access and release the negative energy in order for the individual to achieve both psychological and spiritual balance. (see website on Spiritual Perspective). My book BEYOND THE VIOLATION OF THE SELF contains an in depth conversation with a high level Spiritual Guide.
We are currently in the midst of a Sea-Change, a paradigm shift towards a shift in consciousness towards a higher level of awareness, a greater soul connectedness. As Tolle writes in A New Earth, “what is arising is a new dimension of consciousness.” These shifts are always met with fear and uncertainties. Those in power resist change and consequently have to dismiss the new perspectives to preserve their current view of the world. You see, Earth is not going to allow denials to continue. Watch the headlines. Unresolved traumas are manifesting in horrendous behavioral reenactments.
As Zukav writes in Seat of the Soul, “we are on a journey toward authentic power. We are evolving from five-sensory humans into multi-sensory humans who will be able to perceive the role that our physical reality plays in a larger picture of evolution. It is this invisible realm that the origins of our deepest values are found.”
In each of us is a guiding force that knows how to take care of us and protect us. Through the trance state, a God given natural state of mind, we can tap into all the power and resources we have to help us heal. Take responsibility for healing your childhood wounds. Psychological healing and spiritual growth requires making conscious that which is unconscious.
Future blogs will address adolescent rage and violence- female victimizers-symbiotic relationships-carry-over energy.
Tolle, E. (2005). A new earth. New York: Penguin Group.
Zukav, G. (1989). The seat of the soul. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Dissociation theory has long understood the dynamics that takes place in domestic violence specific to the extreme contrast between “terror followed by submission and reconciliation (Walker).”  Dissociation theory is based on the premise that there is compulsion to repeat our unresolved childhood traumas often through behavioral reenactments.  In our personal relationships, we unconsciously seek out, provoke, and trigger situations that recreate and replay our childhood abuses albeit from witnessing our parents fighting and or being physically, sexually and or emotionally abused.  Recreating but not resolving dramas from our childhood is the essence of symbiotic relationships.  The feelings that are blocked off/dissociated in childhood are powerful primary emotions, that when triggered years later, manifest in their original emotional form as panic, despair, and or rage.

The observer is often confused about the dynamics of domestic violence: lack of remorse with the abuser, and the minimization and self blame  of the abused.  Why does the abused go back with the abuser?  Understand, both partners match up at the same level of differentiation.  They are playing out the same struggle, powerlessness and helplessness, in different roles- a positions of dominance and control versus one of submission and self blame.  Victims of child abuse can remain in a victim role, become the victimizer, and or switch from one role to the other.  All of my male and female juvenile sex offenders were sexually abused as kids.  Ninety percent of them have no recollection of their earlier trauma, but their blocked off feelings are propelling the acting out behavior.

The process is as follows: there is a trigger or a provocation that can be evoked by either partner.  Then a dispute ensues.  An episode can involve jealous rage, verbal threats, intimidation, and physical aggression.  Both partners enter a depersonalized/detached state of mind, replaying powerful childhood emotions with seemingly contemporary causes.  The dramatic episode is followed by a period of calm, then a heightened phase of reconciliation which reinforces the symbiotic traumatic bond that is usually based more on obsession than love.  At varying levels, the partners do not remember the intensity of the abusive episode.  It should be noted that drugs and alcohol are disinhibitors that can facilitate the reliving of childhood trauma.

“The lack of self-regulation is possible the most far-reaching effect of psychological trauma in both children and adults (Van der Kolk).  The reliving of our childhood wounds does not resolve those powerful feelings.  Each partner needs to resolve their blocked off trauma through a deep healing process.  For my practice, the hypnotic/abreactive process has been very effective in the healing of childhood trauma.

Van der Kolk, B.A., McFarlane, A.C. & Weisaeth, L. (1996). Traumatic stress.  New York: Guilford Press.

Walker, L. (1979).  The battered women.  New York: Harper & Row.